A secret’s a secret no matter how small!
I wouldn’t be a very good secret keeper if I spurted them out especially here on the blog.
I may let a little one slide.
3 boys no girl
Sometimes just sometimes I wish people would stop assuming that we had Arthur because we were trying for a girl. I often get “aww I bet you wanted a girl!”
During our 20 week scan whilst pregnant with Oliver, the sonographer asked if we wanted to know the sex. Mark and I had discussed this at length before, and we were up to that point still undecided. But, I blurted out yes. Deep down I was hoping he was a girl. I was secretly crossing everything. I was convinced I was carrying a girl, this pregnancy was completely different to Jack and that’s one of the signs right?
“Congratulations it’s a boy” I would be lying if I said I was over the moon. I actually cried whilst laying on the bed. For the next couple of days I was mourning the girl I would most likely never have. I was scared what would happen if I still felt like this after the birth? When we told others we were expecting a boy we had the standard “Congratulations”. We also had “There is always next time” or “You know there is a method you follow to get a girl?” “I am sorry, but you should be happy, They’re are plenty of couples who can’t have children” Yup! Someone actually said that to me.
A week later I woke and thought you know what, I can’t change anything. I have been blessed with a second boy and I began to look forward to having him.
Third time ?
When I was pregnant with Arthur, that was fun! Yes a girl would be lovely, but you know what I wanted a boy. I loved having Jack and Oliver and they were just great. I wanted another boy to add to my crew. Others couldn’t see how happy I was. ” I bet you want a girl” or “third time lucky” At the scan the sonographer confirmed I was having a boy and I was so excited. My only problem throughout the pregnancy was deciding what I was going to call him. I used 2 of my favourite names on Jack and Oliver.
I know I am not the only one who has felt like this, did you?