#blogtober16 – Day 4 – Share a secret about yourself?

A secret’s a secret no matter how small!

I wouldn’t be a very good secret keeper if I spurted them out especially here on the blog.

I may let a little one slide.

3 boys no girl

Sometimes just sometimes I wish people would stop assuming that we had Arthur because we were trying for a girl. I often get “aww I bet you wanted a girl!”

During our 20 week scan whilst pregnant with Oliver, the sonographer asked if we wanted to know the sex. Mark and I had discussed this at length before, and we were up to that point still undecided. But, I blurted out yes. Deep down I was hoping he was a girl. I was secretly crossing everything. I was convinced I was carrying a girl, this pregnancy was completely different to Jack and that’s one of the signs right?

“Congratulations it’s a boy” I would be lying if I said I was over the moon. I actually cried whilst laying on the bed. For the next couple of days I was mourning the girl I would most likely never have. I was scared what would happen if I still felt like this after the birth? When we told others we were expecting a boy we had the standard “Congratulations”. We also had “There is always next time” or “You know there is a method you follow to get a girl?” “I am sorry, but you should be happy, They’re are plenty of couples who can’t have children” Yup! Someone actually said that to me.

A week later I woke and thought you know what, I can’t change anything. I have been blessed with a second boy and I began to look forward to having him.

Third time ?

When I was pregnant with Arthur, that was fun! Yes a girl would be lovely, but you know what I wanted a boy. I loved having Jack and Oliver and they were just great. I wanted another boy to add to my crew. Others couldn’t see how happy I was. ” I bet you want a girl” or “third time lucky” At the scan the sonographer confirmed I was having a boy and I was so excited. My only problem throughout the pregnancy was deciding what I was going to call him. I used 2 of my favourite names on Jack and Oliver.


I know I am not the only one who has felt like this, did you?





  1. Nikki
    4th October 2016 / 8:38 am

    Sometimes people can be so insensitive at times. They probably didn’t even realise what they were saying!


  2. 4th October 2016 / 9:28 am

    I was the same. Don’t get me wrong, after losing two any baby we have is a miracle and a blessing but secretly I was wishing for a brother for our little girl. We had a name picked out and everything. Couldn’t be more excited now though! Can’t wait to meet our new princess in December!

  3. 4th October 2016 / 11:32 am

    I wanted a girl, I didn’t want to have a boy at all and I was relieved when I found out I was having a girl. I don’t really know why I wanted a daughter so much to be honest perhaps I was just young. I don’t know how I’d feel if I had another and what I would ‘prefer’ to be honest. I agree though, I think many go through feeling the same.

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