Being outnumbered is always a tense prospect. You might assume it’s easier when you’re bigger than all of them combined, but that’s wishful thinking. If you have a whole roost of kids and you want to make sure you stay in control and keep your sanity, then the organised approach is the best one. Here are some tips to help you along.
Give everyone a sense of their own space
First of all, you can cut conflicts dramatically and make it a lot easier to organise everyone by helping them find their own personal space and a sense of ownership over what’s theirs and what isn’t. Siblings share, and you can encourage that, but separate toy storage, room dividers, and using things like clothing labels can help you maintain everyone’s personal belongings and areas. Not only will it help them avoid rubbing against each other and building that friction, but it’s a lot easier to find what your child needs when it has its own space, its own identifying labels, and so on.
Ease off your demands
It’s going to be a lot harder to look after several kids if you are also kept off your feet all day by your responsibilities. Whether it’s work, school, or housework, you need to make it as efficient as possible so you’re not constantly dealing with new demands all day. For instance, you can streamline your housework by opting for a minimalist décor style in the home that means you have fewer surfaces to clean and less clutter to wipe around.
Remember to give yourself a break
At least a couple times a month, if possible, you should plan ahead to give yourself a night where you put up your feet a little. Whether it’s a date with your partner, a night out with friends, a trip to the cinema, or just some alone time, you should find a babysitter or a family member that is willing to help watch the kids while you unwind. Many mothers find their sense of self and their social lives diminishing as their kids rightfully become their top priority. However, that doesn’t mean that you’re not a priority, too.
Start teaching them to self-organise
Just as you can decrease the demands of the house so you don’t have to spend as much time tidying up, you can make your kids a little less demanding, too. How? By helping them learn how to organise. Setting up a routine for them to follow and helping them use planners and calendars to schedule their own time can genuinely help them become much more aware of their own needs and how to take care of them more self-sufficiently. At the very least, you can make it so that you aren’t constantly having to check on whether they have done their homework.
As a mum of several kids, it might never be easy to stay on top of everything, but that doesn’t mean that it’s not possible. Taking the time to get organised, as well as to address your own needs, is crucial to keeping your head on straight.